Thursday, June 4, 2009

Girls are Mean

Yesterday I had my first experience of being the mom of a kid that was bullied. I sent my little (8 year old) to softball practice. She is old enough this year that she practices with 8-12 year old girls. My oldest is a little athlete, but she is only 8. This is her first year out of t-ball into the "bigger" kids league.

She had her first practice of the summer and it was horrible. The softball field is across the street from my house so she went over on her bike. There was about 15 minutes left when she walked in the door. I could tell something was wrong. She burst into tears and said that a couple of girls were being mean to her.

She said she missed catching a couple of balls and they started saying stuff to her, and they wouldn't drop it. Oh, my mama bear instinct came out. I kept myself from marching over there to give the girls and coaches a little piece of my mind. She calmed down and was fine, but I was still so mad.

I am a parent that believes that sports can really teach my children some valuable life lessons, if they are done correctly. Sports can give children the opportunity to build confidence and be healthy. I believe that some competition as children is good for them. However, I also believe that if they have bad experiences as young children with sports, it can ruin their experience with sports for life.

My hubby and I love going over to the ball field with our girls to throw the ball around and help them learn the game. I wanted to share a few pictures of our last trip over to the field.

The oldest gets a little bored waiting for her sisters to actually hit the ball. . .

The baby was mad because we were giving her older sisters a little too much attention. Oh well, she was still having fun.

Our middle girl is learning to hit the ball without the tee.


Laurie said...

I just ran across both of you blogs! I love them!

Ummm, yeah, I have a 19 year old athlete (boy). We've BTDT. I know that this may not 'help' your situation, but when DS dealt with the bullying....we (his dad and I)always tried to remember that it was always a good situation to teach him so much. How not to act, how something said innocently can really hurt someone else's feelings, and so much more.

My son told me about a year ago that all those talks helped prepare him for his adult life...painful, but so much to learn.

Hugs, I do know how it not only hurts your child, but frustrates the parent as well.

Steph at Problem Solvin' Mom said...

Oh I'm not looking forward to these situations, I'm sure that was so hard for both of you! I hope you are able to get the situation resolved quickly, have you tried approaching the coach? 8-12 seems like a huge age range for one team...